5 Easy Communication Tips To Help Keep The Peace In Your Marriage

Good communication is one of the key tools to a happy home. Communicating effectively helps to maintain peace, trust, and harmony in the home. The five tips here are pretty easy. They do take time and energy but with some effort you can master each one.

1. Be slow to speak

Be slow to speak means that you will take time to listen to your own thoughts before you speak. When you speak without listening to your own thoughts first, it is easy to say something you will regret. However, once words are spoken they cannot be taken back. So, take a couple of seconds to hear your thoughts before you give them voice.

Words, once spoken can be accepted, rejected, or maybe forgiven BUT they cannot be taken back.

2. Be slow to get angry

Most folks can feel anger rising on the inside before it explodes on the outside. Be in tune with you. Know what that feels like for you. When you feel it, take a minute, take a breath, but don’t lose control. When you remain in control of your emotions it is easier to listen with an open ear.

3. Be quick to listen

Listening sounds like an easy thing to do, but it is actually a learned and practiced skill to actively listen to another person. It means listening to your mate and hearing what they are saying without forming your opinion while they are still talking. It is hard to actively listen and form your come back at the same time. Listen then form your thoughts.

4. Be full of understanding

When you actively listen, letting everything else go makes way for you to demonstrate understanding for what your mate is saying. Understanding is taking a minute to stand under the mind of your mate and truly hear what they are saying. It doesn’t mean you agree. It means you hear and get where they are coming from; you can empathize with what they are saying.

Understanding means I’m standing under your mind honey. I hear you and I empathize with where you are coming from. It means I understand the position of your heart.

5. Be quick to NOT take offense

In a loving relationship your mate is not out to get you. You are on the same team. When communicating with one another, make an effort to NOT take offense. If the two of you are working on the same team, going in the same direction, you mean one another good and not harm – there is no need to take offense. Your mate may need to look at the way he/she is expressing themselves. You may need to look at the way you are receiving what they are saying. All and all work it out together. Once offense is on the scene, emotions can quickly take over and healthy communication is lost.

These are five easy tips. Begin to put them in practice on a daily basis. Before you know it they will become an everyday part of your life.